Jennette McCurdy shares the stories behind memoir “I’m Glad My Mom Died”

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Former Nickelodeon child star Jennette McCurdy speaks about her traumatic relationship with her mother, struggle with anorexia and her decision to quit acting in her memoir “I’m Glad My Mom Died.”

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  • I love how she willingly admitted her jealousy of costars. It takes a ton of personal maturity and self awareness to admit emotions such as that

    • @Union Unicorn She was also jealous of the fact that Ariana had parents that actually advocated for her and set boundaries...her mom let Nick take advantage of her

    • My heart goes out to her a nasty woman called her mother very twisted

    • @Yanilowkz what lmaooo

    • she’s honestly so well spoken. i love her

    • @Jacey Exactly! I don’t know how all these people are getting it twisted and making the jealousy about anything other than wanting normal, non-abusive parents. That’s a pretty normal thing to want…

  • When she said “Im proud of myself” and you can tell from her face she was in shock and said, “omg I’m proud of myself” again, then cried! You can tell she never hears those words from herself. And the fact that she subconsciously said it and cried broke my heart. Thank you Jennette for continuing to give us a childhood even if that meant you got stripped from yours. 💔

    • You've decided to ignore the meaning of words. Get a dictionary.

    • @2Sides 1Stone You’ve decided what the truth is through your own experience; that doesn’t make it a universal truth. Unless you provide a stat, as I said, what you’re saying is anecdotal. So while you’re here telling me to try the definition of terms I already know, YOU should try not speaking on behalf of the entire human experience on what “leads to arrogance” and what the “rules” are. Get the picture?

    • @Said By Ty There are no "spokespersons" for the truth. There is just the truth. And stats: try the definition of terms.

    • @2Sides 1Stone And who made you the spokesperson for this “rule”? What stats do you have to support the statement that being proud of yourself leads to arrogance?

  • She expresses herself very well. No wonder she’s writing and continuing to write.

    • @Elizabeth Campos she’s going to be successful without that monster in her life

    • @Elizabeth Campos that doesn’t make any difference

    • You know she is 30yrs old, right?

    • She has a life behind and ahead of her to write about.

    • Agreed! Her words are chosen so precisely, she is wise beyond her years!

  • “Accepting that mom was abusive would be reframing my whole life…” this is so real

    • Having to start caring for my mother has stirred up so much resentment when she was never there for me. That’s when I realized what gaslighting was and see it all so clearly now.

    • I’m in my 30s ( close to 40), and I have just went into no contact with my mom ( and maybe one of my sisters ). Both of them are very manipulative and just evil . I have been so abused by my mom my entire life and there were times I had to walk away from and I even moved out of state for a couple years to get away from her. I didn’t miss her for one second but I missed not ever really having a loving mother that I could have a good relationship with. I moved back home bc she was getting older and thought maybe if she needs help etc then her manipulative behaviors started up again as she was blaming me for things I never did , giving me the silent treatment again etc and about 8 weeks ago ( as she started the rounds of silent treatment again ) I decided I have had it. I now travel for work so I can be in a different state etc and this will give me time to think about if I want a complete disconnect from her forever. Or do I just move to another state and have very little contact with her ? I don’t know but I want to go to therapy and think about how she has affected my entire life. She is the reason I never wanted kids bc I was always afraid I would pass down her horrible mothering. I have things I know I need to work on. One of my sisters I feel the same about. Why I had to be born In such an unhappy unstable dysfunctional family that I am not sure how to recover from. I wish I had her insight on things before I hit 30

    • I'm in my forties. With the help of good friend and a therapist, I'm just now unraveling the years of abuse I suffered at the hands of my mother, and how she continues to treat me horribly. I'm stuck taking care of her, and it is a very odd feeling trying to come to terms with all the anxiety she gave me while watching her deteriorate.

    • As long as she acknowledges it, she doesn't need to think any further on it....that is obviously too much for her at this point, perhaps later, perhaps never. I myself wonder why her mom was invasive in this way, very weird and very very wrong (understatement or what!?)

    • It’s a humbling and heartbreaking journey but it worth it to live in truth no matter what.

  • The fact that she turned down the hush money is just so inspiring

    • @Haxus Amanda Bynes was a toy to Nickelodeon.

    • @Andrew Flack Depends. The most successful ones will never share their story unless if their career goes on a rapid decline or they do not get any work.

    • Jeannette’s statements about “the creator” and the hush money are the first shots in what I imagine will be a barrage of former Nickelodeon stars speaking out. The nice thing about NDAs is that once whatever you weren’t supposed to disclose is public knowledge you can talk about it freely. All Jeanette (or anyone else who’s worked at Nickelodeon and didn’t sign an NDA or is rich and famous enough to bear the financial consequences of breaking it) has to do is confirm without a doubt that it was Dan Schneider she was referring to and corroborate it with evidence and the gates will open. You don’t think Amanda Bynes has stories? Jamie Lynn Spears? Victoria Justice?

    • @makeupallies bro she definitely took hush money or was forced or tricked into a contract… do your research look up right here on youtube victorious scenes of ariana grande they are disgusting. when we were kids we didnt notice nothing watching it grown up disgusted me, theres LITERAL SCENES of both icarley and victorious. dan the creater of a lot of kids shows definitely had fettish for kids and feet. which is why nick “professionally” stopped working with him but yk they still work together for money purposes

    • @ceeejay bro she definitely took hush money or was forced or tricked into a contract… do your research look up right here on youtube victorious scenes of ariana grande they are disgusting. when we were kids we didnt notice nothing watching it grown up disgusted me, theres LITERAL SCENES of both icarley and victorious. dan the creater of a lot of kids shows definitely had fettish for kids and feet. which is why nick “professionally” stopped working with him but yk they still work together for money purposes

  • She spent her whole youth giving us Sam. Im glad we finally get to meet Jenette.

    • I can’t see how many likes this comment have🤔 it looks like “1...”

    • Soo deep OMG you must be so proud of this comment this is the highlight of your ID-tv activity.

    • -Come over an see Johnny Depp pursuing Amber Heard with a blade as she begs him to stop, a recording played at trial that I transcribed and loudened

    • Jeanette* Ms.Jeanette

  • She is wise beyond her years. So emotionally and psychologically aware, intelligent, and insightful. She should be a psychotherapist.

    • “She should be a psychotherapist” I hate when people are wise at a young age they often told you should be this No we shouldn't not. Airing it out means they just want to inspire others to learn patterns, understand the truth of the situation, healing the inner child, take back control and moving on

    • @Ian Fortuna aww 💚

    • @Thomas Cox still young and can still make a difference and so can you!!

    • @Sonia Rivas definitely what i’m thinking, from what i’ve seen it looks like she had literally zero childhood. so upsetting.

    • Only if she likes it, can handle it and wants it

  • i love everything about this reporter's story on Jennette, she doesn't stumble over her words, listens and takes into consideration what Jennette has to say, and she asks smart and well-thought questions that are still respectful whilst remaining respectful towards Jennette, and I love how she seems genuinely engaged in the conversation and is very sympathetic. This could have been a very easy interview to mess up because of how intelligent and outspoken Jennette is had they gotten a different reporter but the two perfectly compliment each other, good job ABC news you did well

    • I agree. I know people who mocked me over and over when I told about how abusive my mom was and about my insecurities and my mental health issues, they made fun of me like it was nothing. I understand how being respectful about other people's traumas is important because I've never had that when it comes to my traumas. I'm always made fun of, called dramatic or angry that now I AM angry and guess what?? If you're disrespectful to me, I'll be disrespectful to you too, and believe me, you can get REALLY tired because I will never let go!!

    • i thought the same thing when i watched the interview.

    • A hundred percent completely agree with you about that 💯💁🏻‍♀️

  • I'm almost finished Jenette's book, "I'm glad my mother died" and at times it was difficult to read everything she was put through. I hope her book nets her more than Nikelodeon's 300,000 hush money she deserves every penny and more. I admire her integrity and strength.

  • Tell me why I started crying when she thought about putting her nieces through college after turning the hush money down. Just the fact that she thought of someone else who could’ve benefited from that money, but knowing she needed to benefit herself first. I’m so proud of her and who she’s become, even if I don’t personally know her.

    • Look up "parentification"

  • “I’ve chosen a path of integrity and it hasn’t always been easy” what a woman

    • Do not ever change! You could teach many adults!

    • How so lol anyone can literally say these exact words.

    • @allie o really?? She is an adult now! She was a helpless victim once, but now she holds the power. Plus I was once a victim at age 5, now as an adult I can make decisions to stop the abuser or keep quiet. I think a person needs to make sure he has no more victims. But you might think he should be free to do as he pleases, and I'm the mean one???

    • @Irene Z easy now. she’s a victim. what a disgusting thing to say! you should be ashamed

  • As someone who had shitty parents that ruined my youth, parents should be sued and held responsible for the damage they cause. Society needs to have assistance programs for this because becoming an adult doesn’t magically fix all the damage.

    • @Melissa Same here. I feel trapped and like I will just have to trade them for another trap (abusive boss and/or so) to survive and i do not want to.

    • @Melissa what a baby 😂

    • @Daniel Marinucci I think it’s Okay to hate evil parents like that. I’m sorry someone you were suppose to trust was a bully. He sounds like a looser and failure. I’m sorry that your father was a failure, and I’m glad that your above that now. The pain never fully goes away. But Your strength is admirable

    • My Italian abusive father beat me til I was 20. Then when I was old enough and I could physically take a hit, he came after me mentally. He died in 2020 from cancer. Hopefully he's in hell with his father. He was a rotten bastard before he even had kids/family. A lot of stories were told.

    • @Lucien Fortner totally and utterly agree with you. It's actually sad that anyone wld think differently

  • I'm not a read-for-fun kind of person, and I devoured this whole book in a 7 hour sitting. Could not put it down. The audio book is even more compelling.

    • @tml She does, but he is referred to as "the creator." I strongly recommend the book

    • @tml she does, extensively. he’s referred to as “the creator”.

    • Can you please tell me whether she speaks about Dan Schneider and whether he was abusive to her or the cast in any way in this book?

    • Yes!!! I'm listening to it and can't stop!

    • the audio book is harrowing. it’s awesome.

  • I relate. My mother was a Narcissist. "She really wanted to have her influence on me and me growing up was a threat to that." I remember the day that our relationship shifted parent-child to master-slave at the age of 12, after what she considered my first boost of confidence. She was 'losing' me. For me, the abuse wasn't centered on an acting career, but rather house chores, academics and physical appearance. She would take a piece of my hair in her fingers with disgust and ask me if I had showered or brushed my hair, even if I had just stepped out of the bathroom. In my early 20s, both parents began bullying me about my eating habits (specifically, my favorite food, a peanut butter sandwich daily at lunch). I remember the moment (after crying while staring into the fridge, hungry and unable to eat) when I thought, 'So this is how someone develops an eating disorder.' I remember the moment I looked up the description of an emotional abuser on Wikipedia at work at the age of 26 and realized with horror (and a strange relief of understanding), 'This matches my mother.' "I couldn't initially accept the idea that my mother was abusive toward me... Accepting that she was abusive would have meant reframing my entire life." Yes, I had to reframe my life, too. For me, it was relatively easy. But the rest of my family, like my brother, they don't necessarily understand how I could 'flip' (thank you, therapy). "This isn't like you." A shame that they enjoyed the passive, abused version of me better than the assertive, healthier version. It proved that some of my family don't truly (want to) know me and they reject the real me. Three years of no contact and I am healthier and thriving.

    • Reading this really got to me, idk why but I just feel so proud of you for growing, putting yourself first after so much time. It takes so much strength to do something like that and it’s amazing that you could do it when the people who were supposed to love you more than anything were against you the whole time. I haven’t gone through anything like that at least for an extended period of time so I honestly can’t relate to it but I sure can empathize with it because I know how scary it can be to feel hopeless and backed into a corner by people you love. Not all blood relatives are your real family, sometimes you have to find your family and make peace that your blood relatives just aren’t good for you. You inspire me, my whole life I’ve lived for everyone around me even if they treat me badly, and I want to get better and treat myself properly for once, it’s so hard to make a step to do that. But I’m hoping with time I can heal some past wounds and finally live.

    • My mom actually got angry with me when I lost weight. She started calling me a old, ugly hag 😢

    • Bless you

    • This is so heartbreaking. I hope you’re okay lovely ♥️

    • 🌷🌷

  • She became the person she needed when she was younger. Inspiring

  • I was disappointed at first that she wasn’t on the icarly reboot but now I am so glad she chose herself and her well being over the show. She deserves the world.

    • @bert1029 💀 💀 💀

    • Elle, 😂😂 Hodge"conservative" twins 🤣🤣🤣

    • What's great is that the cast and producers let her know that she's welcomed back into the show anytime if she feels comfortable enough

  • As a 39-year-old man who never watched iCarly, I couldn’t imagine ever having so much in common with this woman. I have a special shot glass saved for when my abusive, narcissistic mother finally kicks the bucket.

    • @Moon's Youngest Sun do we have the same mother ? Are we sisters 😂.

    • Wow. I’m so angry at my mom right now that I think a shot glass will be in my hand as well. I’m also thinking of writing a book. Not only will it maybe be therapy for me but I hope she reads it and thinks about how she treated me her entire life

    • As a 30 something daughter of a narcissist mom, I never experienced freedom in my life until I let it go. She got very aggressive and self desensive on the topic of my sister's and my childhood. Once I forgave her, she changed. She knows she won't live forever, so she's now super supportive of me and my decisions. I didn't think it possible, and don't believe it is for every narcissist. But she knew she mistreated us, and didn't want to be left alone. Even if you do not wish to ever see her again (which I perfectly understand), keeping this negative feeling inside you will only do you more harm than good in the long run. Do this for yourself, forgive her so you can stop the hatred and bad memories from resurfacing. The past cannot be changed, but it does not define our future. Say it out loud, I forgive you mom, and let the emotions out. Think that if you don't she still has control of you. Let her go.

    • @Maria Mermaid Good for you for recognizing that distance is needed and accomplishing this. Too many times my mom made me feel guilty about my feelings, including if I distanced myself from her. It took me a long time to realize that my feelings matter. Any anger, resentment or hurt I have towards her is valid, especially because she caused me to have those feelings towards her in the first place. They think that because, by default, they are the parent, any behavior from them should be quietly tolerated. Yet, let somebody hurt them and watch how expressive they are with their emotions. They don't hold anything in. So again, good for you for distancing yourself. Maybe one day the extent of your mom's actions will kick in when she sees just how much you are willing to do to avoid her. But don't hold your breath because mine is in her 70s and has not changed a bit.

    • @Moon's Youngest Sun This Is exactly my Mom! Everything you said, is exactly how I feel towards my own Mother. I've cut contact a few times, this last time tho she really put her foot in her mouth, and I'll never forgive her hurtful words. To me, that really sealed the coffin.I'm so much better off

  • She's one hell of a writer, and an amazing person. More than once I've read her memoir with tears in my eyes. What a heartbreaking story. Holy crap... Dan Schneider aka THE CREATOR and Nickelodeon should be ashamed of themselves. Jennette, I know you'll never read this but, just for the small chance that you might: you are awesome. You are cool. And you are one of the strongest people who have worked in Hollywood and live to tell about it. And please, keep telling us about it - no one should have to endure everything you had to go through. With love, all the way over from the Netherlands.

    • I literally read her book in 3 days. I don’t really like reading that much. Was really good

  • She became the honest voice of so many child stars. My heart goes out to her.

  • As soon as she was discussing her mother's "medical exams" my mind went to the topic of how her mother wanted her to stay a child so I'm wondering if she was trying to see if her daughter had been sexually active. I'm saddened to know she went through this.

    • It’s sexual abuse nothing else

    • We don't know what her mother's intentions were, however touching your child in that way is nothing but child abuse, no matter how you frame. She could've just asked her.

    • It's invasive and dehumanizing

    • It's sexual abuse too, which a lot of people don't seem to understand. Mothers sexually abusing their children isn't talked about enough.

    • Yeah, it was for sure her checking to see if she had been sexually active OR to see if the people she left her child with had violated her, she did this without actually asking her if someone had violated her because if her child said it out loud she would actually have to take action and the money was too good.

  • You can tell how much therapy how much personal work she’s gone through in the vocabulary she uses and the thoughtful way she talks. I’m proud of her

    • @nuttyrivers he’s not talking about the vocabulary he’s talking about how therapeutical self help is a predominantly white thing leaning more on the female side aswell. Men and minorities are just straight up less likely to seek professional help whether it be to financial/insurance situationual reasoning or the mindset in which you were raised. Atleast that’s how I took his comment. Don’t believe it was a comment with racist intent even though they worded it in a shitty way.

    • @Bobby B There’s no such thing as a “correct” vocabulary. It’s like you haven’t heard of concepts like slang, jargon or dialects. What are you even talking taking about?

    • @K-Mart what

  • Her story is so tragic yet she's able to speak on it so elegantly with integrity. The world needs stars like her who speak about these extremely traumatic things. They need to be spoken

  • She’s such a strong young woman. I’m proud of her for acknowledging her mothers abuse.

  • She is such a strong person for coming out of this abuse and becoming the person she is today! Good for her that she is able to talk about it and get the help she deserves, I wish her success in any and everything she does :)

  • She is so articulate and intelligent! Love hearing her speak and I am so glad she escaped Hollywood! I am rooting for her to be a successful author!

    • She already is! The book is amazing!

  • The interviewer is so great. Not being super invasive, letting her just let it all out, and cracking a joke here and there to ease the tension so perfectly. We need more ppl in the media like her

    • Much better than the Barbara Walters and Diane Sawyers out there

    • @Angela Miller I looked it up. This same interviewer came off as cold and unfeeling to Rose. She seemed unsympathetic even. I guess maybe this interviewer learned something over the years and grew as a person idk.

    • @Kris Kayn What about a Rose McGowan interview?

    • Absolutely! People love to repeat all the time that actors, especially child actors that grew up, need to be humanized, shown grace, and treated like real people "just like us", but then will gleefully consume the pain and trauma of actors and laugh at their hubris of "thinking they were so damn special", in part because of how they're perceived through a parasocial lens that is presented by commentary media persons such as interviewers. Whether others want to admit it or not, how news reporters/interviewers and even "commentary channels" talk about and talk to celebrities influences how we look at them. If the reporter, or "commentator" is aggressive, malicious, or disrespectful from the start and treating the celebrity as this villainous character who "is totally hiding something and putting on this innocent act-- no really, I'm not _just_ saying that because I hate women/people of color/Jews/LGBT folx/fat people!", other folks *will* listen to that and change their attitudes to reflect that.

  • What I love about this interview is her intelligence. She spoke with such confidence and eloquence. As a parent that loves her children correctly, it is so hard to understand how a mother could be so abusive to her daughter. But the silver lining in her story is she is no longer a victim but a crusader for truth and healing. I love that she can't be bought and told her story which I am sure can help so many people who have suffered abuse and disorder/addictions that was born from that abuse. God bless her and her therapist for helping her with the proper tools to get her on the road to wellness and recovery. ♥️

  • I can empathize with her and I'm glad that she's free of her mom and chose to live a life she can be proud of. 👏 She's a survivor.

  • She is so well spoken I actually got her memoir as an audiobook. I really admire her for telling her story that must’ve been hard, it’s really given me insight into how tough child acting can be and eating disorders. I’ve had disordered thoughts around food because of society even though my family educated me really well. but to have your mother teach them to you at age 11…I can’t imagine how traumatic that is. She didn’t deserve what she went through and it’s sad the amount of people who failed her. I’m glad she seems to be doing better, much respect for this inspiring woman who’s doing the work to recover from something that wasn’t her fault.

  • Jenette: As a parent, I watched you grow up on NICK with my daughter sitting next to me. You are a remarkably talented young woman! And you are a brave and fierce young woman! May you continue to be brave and fierce as you pursue your dreams and you do what makes you happy and brings you joy. I'm not your mom, but I am proud of you! I can't wait to see where your talent takes you!

  • I can listen to Jennette speak all day. She expresses herself so well. It feels therapeutic listening to her speak of her journey.

    • I agree. She just described her mother's abuse towars her without making it sound like she was talking badly about her mother at the same time. She's so well spoken amd respectful. This is awful.

    • @Crystal Pink that straw man argument is not acceptable.

    • @drippin wet huh

    • @drippin wet Force a child to work with her abuser is NOT acceptable,and you can help the children without food instead of blaming an abuse victim

  • She's such a strong, wise and mature person. I'm so sorry that she went through all this horrible stuff, but so proud that she's speaking up about it and healing. ❤

  • She is so poised and intelligent and inspiring. I loved her then and I love her even more now!

  • I had always wondered why she's not on Television anymore, but I now understand why she doesn't aim to be on TV. Not knowing about this stuff until now is just mind boggling. I hope she's doing much better now than she did before. She deserves it.

  • she is so brave and overcame what many people can't even face.

  • She is a perfect example of how parents can really ruin a child. She is so strong!

    • @Casey Honeycutt Maybe it is time to stop playing with your Aryan Barbie Dolls and Grow Up.

    • @Igloo Zoo no one is blaming her parents I have an example of what can happen in life when people make wrong decisions it affects their family. You need to rethink some of your wordage it could get your hurt 😁

    • @Igloo Zoo Why should an abuser be able to defend themselves and why give an abuser grounds to speak and obviously continue to deny the abuse . Abusers even when alive don't exactly admit to doing wrong and definitely don't admit what they did and usually have an excuse for whatever reason they did something. Jeanette even said her mother had a repeating line which obviously is a disclaimer ", it's for medical reasons" soooooo I don't really think she deserves to defend her self. It's kinda apathetic and insensitive of you to try and convince everyone you are taking a "morale high ground" as if abused victims shouldn't have a right to speak publicly about the experiences they've endured. Eh yucky It's attitudes like yours that enables complacency and apathy and actually fosters the whole predators and abusers to continue to perpetuate the viscous cycles of their actions when the general society concensus turns around and cross examines victims and tries to re-evaluate the entire scenario of circumstances. No. IT is most definitely cut and dry. Jeanette and others like her are Victims of abuse. Point blank period. No ifs ands or buts. Absolutely no way. Also Dead people are exactly THAT people who are dead. Just because they're dead they don't get automatic amnesty from the abuse they caused whilst alive. Justice needs to be served regardless. And THIS is justified. Jeanette gaining closure and being able to communicate and talk about stuff US completely reasonable in all shapes and forms. Having Deborah her mother defending herself us basically just another Jerry Springer and Steve Wilkos show. Except instead of getting death she would have just been dragged off stage in handcuffs. Nobody wants to listen to anything a child abuser has to say. Nothing justified in touching and feeling up on your child for X amount of years. Nope.

  • In my bitterness, I want to say I'm not glad her mom is dead. I wish she was still around to know everyone who's heard Jeannette's story now knows what an absolute monster she is. How her abuse and narcissism ruined her own daughter's life, and that we will all hate her for it for all eternity. But, my empathetic side tells me it's best to focus on the fact Jeannette has grown and healed so much. That we get to hear her story and finally get to know who she is deep down. It hit so close to home for me, the fact I'm not alone in having gone through similar circumstances. I'm so sorry you had to go through this, but I'm happy we get to know who you really are, amazing and strong in every sense. Thank you, Jeannette.

    • It is a heartbreaking and painful journey to have survived abuse. I hope one day you will know all the kindness in the world and love and peace. Hats off to you and your healing. Xx

    • A hundred percent 💯 completely agree with you about that

  • I stand with Jennette. I never deserved my mother's trauma, spite, and abuse, either. Hugs, Jennette.

  • She was battling anorexia while portraying a child addicted to food. She would’ve devoured that food for real if she wasn’t getting abused…. I’m in tears knowing how miserable my childhood heroes were. Especially since my own thunderstorm of a childhood was only bearable because of these stars…

  • I really love her. I got emotional with her. What she says. A path of integrity. That just struck me. As someone who's been through extreme trauma. That hit me.

  • I hope she realizes how brave she is for talking about all of this. Other child stars will see this and realize what’s happening to them isn’t normal or okay. She’s truly saving lives.

    • @Sasha35 Am I? And how many child actors stories have we heard when they turn adults that's similar to hers?

    • @Sasha35 arrest? 😂😂

    • @Culture 25-8 ok good for you? Stil doesn't excuse how her mother treated her and her siblings

  • Wow! Poor girl. She articulated her experiences so clearly.

  • Wow, she's my age. I am literally going through this self loving journey now.. such an inspiration. I have so many doubts, but seeing her speak so strongly over such hard times is beautiful. There is hope

  • I really adored Jennette's book. It was raw and vulnerable, I read it in a day. The thing that currently worries me is her ED recovery. Seeing her in this video, Instagram posts, etc, has me worried that she is not taking care of herself. She has purple/blue rings around her eyes, her face is sunken in, you can see her bones and the consequent deterioration of her body. I'm worried that the trauma of even writing her book has placed her in a mindset of relapse. I really hope she's okay and is taking care of herself. She deserves nothing but the world and then some.

    • @Francesca Kelf I never stated anything about the lack of puffy cheeks. That is absolutely a positive sign that she is staying away from the purging part of her eating disorder.

    • i think she looks great! and i believe the lack of "puffy cheeks" is a testament to her recovery. it is often a result of all the purging.

    • @jill mont that's actually not true. Speaking from personal experience, it's a lot easier to relapse within the first few years of recovery. It can take multiple rounds of treatment and lots of therapy to securely transition into recovery. This is not an attack on her. I understand the struggle of a long term eating disorder, the repercussions, and the amount of effort and time it takes to recover. You can tell the difference.

    • Usually once u have an ED for a very long time once you recover a lot of the time the body never truly recovers.

  • It’s crazy how these people we saw on tv at such a young age, have deep and personal stories in their own lives. I was just a kid and now I see that it wasn’t all good. They’re still living and growing themselves!

  • "I've chosen a path of integrity, and it hasn't always been easy." Powerful words.

    • @Cali Bean I'm sorry but I disagree. Stories like hers must be told, I'm sure yours too. I actually never understood what an unhealthy relationship I had with my dad until I read a bit of her book, I still have to completely read it tho, I felt really identified with her. I think her story is very valuable as a public person and I think she's telling the truth, there's nothing wrong with that. And sure, that book title was for clicks, but also it was true! And it is completely fair, she feels free now, I got the same feeling as her when my dad died despite me loving him very much

    • @Philip Kirby I agree , although you were nicer.

    • @Cali Bean Your response shows that you didn't actually read the book. I'd recommend reading it, before you make decisions on it and the author.

    • @Allie Wickam I was abused by a family member at 4 until I was 11. He died in prison. The only way to live free is to forgive your abuser and recognize they are sick. Choosing that book title for clicks and attention tells me she's still not there.

  • I feel that. My moms said my birth was a mistake. She constantly would tell me im good for nothing. Would call me a “mother f****r” and say im a “nobody”. So sorry peeps, but some mothers are not mothers. Some mothers are the worst mothers. ✌️

    • Same here, stay strong and be the best version of yourself.

    • exactly! my Mother was a Monster!

  • "I think I've chosen a path of integrity." That got me. I'm emotional for her. Go Jennette, you did the hard thing, which is to do right by yourself. I'm so full of compassion and admiration for you. Thank you for sharing your story honestly and walking in integrity. ❤You're incredible and I'm teary.

  • This woman has a lot of class. When she said she has taken the path of integrity... after I've heard her read aloud emails from her mom when her mother told her she was a shut, and an ugly monster. It's very impressive. She's very well spoken and she seems very kind and wise. Good on her.

  • I just read her bool and now, I understand why she did it, why she used that title. And why she told her story. She's going to help a lot of people. God bless you, Jeanette.

  • "Accepting that she was abusive would have meant reframing my entire life." How true for children of abuse. Your parent is a CRITICAL part of your development. When you realize the perspective they gave you is damaged it's hard to just...fix all of that.

    • @Lady Y well-written comment!

    • Yes, it’s specially hard when you still want it have your parents around

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    • Exactly! Going through that myself every day is a battle but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

    • heard this just when I seen this

  • I never watched iCarly but after seeing her interview with Trevor Noah,she really struck a cord with me. She is so well spoken and has a great perspective on so much (may G*d bless great therapists). I can't wait to read the book.

  • It’s so refreshing to hear honesty and openness from someone. I hope she continues to do well.

  • I just think it’s so sad that as a child you’d never understand how cruel the world actually can be. We were all just watching these shows made by Dan Schneider while this girl and other actors were clearly struggling and we had no idea. It’s just so heartbreaking to see that Jenette was going through this abusive relationship with her mom on her own. When you’re getting older u start to understand how cruel the world actually can be. She’s so strong and i’m just so proud of her. She really made it.

  • My dad, who was diagnosed with cancer when I was 13, is also prone to fits of rage and gaslighting and sometimes cruelty. He was never nearly as abusive as Jennette’s mom was, but I recognize how hard it is to tiptoe around a parent who can turn their anger at you on a dime, and who is sick and paints themselves the victim at the same time. I think that’s why Jennette’s story resonates with many people, we don’t usually recognize that parents can be imperfect. Or that they can want “the best” for us but be broken themselves and not know how to parent us at all.

  • The fact that she thought the money could had put her nieces through college, she still saw herself as the bread winner and responsible for others. Heartbreaking. I hope her future is bright and beautiful she deserves it.

    • @Fairy_Dust Yup this is absolutely what it is. The people commenting after you saying “what??” are so confused and they have never experienced this is how some Asian households are.

    • @Fairy_Dust For Asians it's just another Tuesday when you help your family financially. Yep. Nailed it

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  • Her story reminds me so much of mine. Even the eating disorders and drinking. All very similar. It's so heartbreaking 😭 I'm honestly so amazed by her bravery to be so open about her story. I could never be that strong to do it. I'm glad she's getting help though. ❤

  • Jannette I haven't read your book, yet..but I feel like I absolutely will relate to your pain and sense of worth. Especially, because MOM is the person your suppose to praise, defend, be proud of and honor always...but some MOMs fail to hold that title. I can't wait to read it. Prayers for your healing.

  • What a bright and switched on lady. She’s still young and this is her time - she can do whatever she pleases now 💛 (I had a bad mother and I relate totally to what she said about wishing she could show her younger self what she would be like in years to come…I was shocked when I heard this because I often have the same thoughts…it would’ve given me the hope I so desperately needed as a child. Life was extremely tough for me with an abusive mother (it couldn’t have gotten any worse…she was a true sadist) and now I’m in my 40s, I enjoy life but those scars are very much present still let me tell you) x

  • I love how calm she is. I might always look for time to watch her on ICarly and Sam and Cat because it's part of how I keep my younger self alive in spirit but I acknowledge and have benefitted from watching her speak against the system that encourages underage promiscuity and eating disorders, along with behaviors that give birth to mental disorders

  • "Accepting she was abusive meant I would have to reframe my entire life." And she had the courage to reframe anyway. The darkest truths lead to the most transformative healing. So much admiration for her!

    • Agreed 👍

    • it takes bravery to be held as a mirror to help others, she is so badass, I hope it helps others take the step

    • I know exactly what you mean. Nothing harder than realizing that your parents were not only human but may have went through exactly what they put you through. Being a mom myself now has made me have to face the fact that my mother wasn’t evil incarnate she became that way because she had been raised by generations of evil…if I didn’t face that then I’d be at risk of continuing the cycle. My son and daughter will be raised by the all that is good, endless love and abundant forgiveness and I pray they will raise their children with those same things. We are healing generations of pain and I’m so proud to have it start with my children.

    • She’s speaking the truth. This quote resonates closely with my journey of healing from abuse. Before any healing could begin, I had to find the humility to admit I was broken. And through my confessions, I could be free to reach out for grace that was offered to me through Christ. Forgiveness sets us free when we are honest with ourselves

  • I admired the way she spoke, the way she communicated with her body she felt genuine and I honestly haven’t felt that in a long time on television. I actually felt like I was in that room, like wow!

  • A lot of us weren’t celebrities…but your truths behind the smile & personality can really be life saving.

    • I read her book, and I hope it can help others who grew up with narcissistic parents find peace

  • "... because I've chosen a path of integrity." Wow, beautifully and powerfully put. So many choose to go with the crowd, and she does indeed have the courage to buck that trend. God Bless her and help her continue to heal. Semper Fi.

  • I just love her, I have always related to her and thought she was just amazing and hilarious. I loved her book and she is such a wonderful woman. What a sweet heart, I love that she is so good to herself and that she is proud of herself now!! That is HUGE!!!!

  • I’ll never get over the way she said “I’m proud of myself”. That statement sounded so powerful and she really could’ve easily taken that money and yet she didn’t and picked writing about her experiences and growing up. I am so excited to see her future. I hope this gives her peace and healing ❤️‍🩹

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    • i have such chills and feel emotional for her. super proud of her

    • When she said I chose a path of integrity, wow.

  • That's so heartbreaking 💔 It's so hard to accept that your mom was abusive. It's grieving, it's leaving a life you thought you had behind and rewriting one of your own design. It takes so much courage to finally accept it, stand up to it, and walk away from it. She sounds healed, I'm so happy for her growth now ✨️ ❤️

  • So proud of her finally speaking up she deserves the world 🌎 💜

  • She was my favorite on iCarly. My heart hurts knowing that this all happened, but, Jennette we’re all so proud of you, too ❤️ Love your bravery. It’s so inspiring.

  • I'm so, so proud of her. I have a similar relationship with my mother and know hard it is.

  • She’s so well spoken and you can tell she’s done so much hard work on healing herself, I’m unbelievably proud of her

    • @How to Make yourself ideas She is saying she was abused by her mother and struggled with anorexia and bullimia

    • Agree

    • The mom in me just wants to hug her so bad and tell her that I’m proud of her 🌹

    • She'll be alright

    • ok

  • Ms McCurdy is extremely intelligent, articulate and courageous. Please catch her interview with the brilliant Trevor Novah. I will definitely buy her book. Great job getting YOUR story out, inspite of any nay sayers. Mothers are not always healthy for their children and hopefully this helps others.

  • I respect Jennette McCurdy to the fullest. I love her winning spirit.

  • She's remarkably beautiful, inside and out, and extremely strong for what she's been through.

  • I definitely have gained a whole new respect for her you go girl

  • Her book is incredible! I just finished listening to it. She narrates the book and you feel like you're there with her. I'm so proud of her for coming this far along. I can't wait for her other books to come out.

  • I really admire her for having been through all of this and coming out of it so beautifully and honestly! I can’t even imagine how hard it has to be to talk about this and relive it. I really love seeing this authentic side of her.

  • jeanette is an incredibly strong person. having watched her throughout my childhood, i’m so proud of everything she has accomplished and overcome.

  • I just always knew something wasn’t right with her I’ve always heard stuff about her but I am beyond proud of her fr I love you girl

  • You never would have guessed she went through all of this while watching her on iCarly. I'm glad she's doing well now!

    • @Spicy BrownEye yes I’m July 91

    • @TheDolphingirl20 That's what I'm saying, she didn't upset any Minorities.

    • Good that's important

    • @Anthony Amato she seems to truly be happy and healthy now physically and emotionally/mentally

    • @Forward1776 *women and why would she upset any minorities with HER life story?

  • I actually couldn't believe this. As a kid, Jennette made me laugh so many times with her acting on iCarly, I couldn't have imagined that she was going trough such a horrible time. I also went through an eating disorder (AN), recovery is difficult and, from what I investigated, some people that has already recovered will have to live with the invasive thoughts as a result from the illness (oh, but also others will do a complete recovery). I'm in the first group, it's dangerous because, if not treated, it can quickly result in developing unhealthy coping mechanisms. I just hope the best for her and that she will be strong to live her life in her own way 🥺💕

  • I learned who she was through my daughter but I am so impressed who she is as a woman 👑♥️ what a queen

  • I’m so proud of you her!! It takes strength to talk about weaknesses and struggles. I love her for that.

  • She’s such a beautiful and inspirational woman! That line of integrity brought tears to my eyes

    • Lol

  • Just ordered the book. Thank you, Jennette, for sharing your story with the world. 🖤

  • Oh my gosh Jeanette has been through the difficult times in her young life. I knew who she was because my daughter watched Sam and Cat and then the other Nickelodeon show she stared in (I forget the title..oh well) Honestly I think such young people are violated, used and abused as stars in the acting/Hollywood/entertainment industry. It’s so unfair these young lives are put through such atrocities. It’s so unfair and cruel as to do. They don’t deserve it at all. Most of them are still almost babies when they become the attention to the entertainment industry. Sick and insidious adults are revolting. As Jeanette did talk about her young life and it having her own mother to sexually assault and fondle her as a kid is a nightmare to have done to her at a young age. It’s sick and for sure I seriously understand why Jeanette gave the title of her book ‘I’m glad that my mother died’. It’s the truth and the truth really does set us abused, violated and traumatised people as grown ups /adults to be free from the demons we’ve been dealt with while growing up into our adult selves. Jeanette is finding her happiness along her life journey these days. It’s great that she’s no longer living in the shackles along her life journey anymore. She however endured them whilst her mother was still alive and breathing. This lady is going to be a true survivor of so much pain and trauma. It’s a fair few people who are big names in the world who’ve been through such atrocities. One of my favourite musicians is one and his a true survivor as Jeanette really is. This young woman will be a role model for plenty of children who have grown up with difficult times during their younger years. It’s what makes someone have the true fighting spirit in their souls. Happened for me as a young person with a history of trauma. I send much love and light to this beautiful soul who deserves to be respected and blessed. She’s proof of a true survivor from way too much pain and tribulations in a young life. I cheer her on 😎💜

  • This is an impressive level of maturity regarding a sensitive topic. I do wonder how much of it is acting like she deserves better and actually feeling that she does. Trauma isn't something that just goes away. So, I wish her well on her pursuit of happiness and enlightenment.

  • What an articulate bright woman. 💜 Shes inspiring

  • The way she is just says so much. Her silence, her quantity of words, her shorter answers and her longer ones. Made me cry when all she could say was “I chose a path of integrity, it wasn’t always easy”

    • @Amy Bartell so heartbreaking , While I was reading I had to pause and take a break and process what I just read .

    • The book is devastatingly good. Heartbreaking, but so well written.

    • Same

  • Jenette looks good, like someone whose really settled into herself, seeing all that life has to offer and choosing the better-best for her and her peace. I'm so proud of her.

  • That book she wrote is probably a really good read. Hearimg about it strikes a strikes chord with me. I can't really say much else here because I know someone(s) are still going through this type of crap and despite me trying to help I came off as mansplaining annoying that whatever I say is useless. Yet I still have see the damage still being caused (on and off). I think videos like this will more than likely help others to fixing things on thier own terms. A few years ago I had to say to myself to not take it personal when someone doesn't want help. Cool news report. (Nes Manga)

  • I'm extremely moved and impressed with how completely up front she was with her life struggles - I grew up a theatre brat and although I dabbled in acting I was on location in New Jersey as an extra my Father had a role of Father Pat in the cult horror flick Alice Sweet Alice with a very new and upcoming Brooke Shields - we were all of age 9 and I remember because I wasn't one of the Ford modeling agent kids in the film Brooke and I hit it off nicely but on e her Mom saw her "fraternizing" with an extra and just being a kid she was immediately separated - I get that world.....I was fortunate that my folks never pushed me into the business and eventually did what I loved and was my calling after years of suffering immense dysfunction in my home. It takes courage to find our way to who we should have always been not having the loving guidance of a Parent or Parents. Bravo to her for finding herself.

  • Brave woman doing the world a service by telling her truth. Love this. Love a person stepping up and becoming a roll model

  • "The Path of Integrity" She totally owned that statement. People who have never been through what She has can never fully understand the mixed emotions and all the easy way outs one would consider. She didn't take the bribe and instead took the way She felt was Her own and that speaks volumes on how far She's come. Good for you Jennette, you made us all laugh and feel good while you couldn't a that time, and speaking for fans, You have our Respect and Love. We got your back, if ever and whenever you may need it.

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    • Why did you capitalize she and her?

    • It so heart breaking to know that she was enduring such pain while she was giving others such joy at the time of those shows!

  • Her self journey has not been easy by far, but I’m absolutely in awe of her & her growth!!

  • Just finished the audiobook, excellent writer for sure!! Loved that it was read by author

  • Wow- she’s very eloquent, way beyond her years!! I am personally very happy and grateful she was able to recognize she needed help, sought help and is sharing her story with us. 👏🏼

  • I have mad respect for Jennette McCurdy, I love her book and I'm going to listen to it many times.

  • "That $ could've put my nieces through college, that's a lot of money". Given how successful this book alone has been, I hope she makes far more than just $300,000 and gets MANY more business deals. She seriously deserves it. Sometimes I feel like "child actors" shouldn't even be allowed anymore. If a minor can't legally consent to (most) things in general and cannot legally sign a contract by their self... doesn't it seem odd that parents are allowed to consent to their (minor) children doing such extreme jobs so young? And ffs - there is SO much evidence of child ab*se on these sets!!!

    • Sam was the most unique character I've ever seen on tv♥️♥️♥️

    • Thank goodness 😅 we got it back from work yesterday lol 😆 is getting a better idea 💡 I’m not working with you anymore I think 💭 would do you need a lot to get it off and get some more stuff out there too but if we do not want you guys want me out here I just don’t have that

    • i love that her response about the $300k is not even about what she would use it for on herself - but rather, she is so selfless that she would have considered using it for someone else (her neice). She comes across as so geniune and kind despite the hardship she has experienced; I am looking forward to reading this book as soon as it becomes available at my local library -- it might be a little bit, though (there are 200 requests for this book pending at my library! so it likely won't be available for some time). I think that is a sign that her book is going to give her the success she deserved.

  • She's a strong person who's been thru a lot and despite that came out a better person. Its genuinely inspiring. Maybe its a unpopular opinion, but children should not be actors. Those years are formative and should be spent forming their personality and sense of self in a good environment. I can't imagine how damaging it would be to spend your childhood trying to be characters you are not, all for the appeasing the apathetic capitalist/industry machine that prioritizes profit over mental/physical wellbeing. Children shouldn't be anywhere near that type of business or those type of transactions until their adults, its too stressful for them to comprehend. Its exploitation, straight up